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Elizabeth Hartney, PhD

Sex Addiction - Not As Fun As It Sounds

By February 28, 2013

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It's easy for people with a healthy sexual appetite to mock and undermine the concept of sex addiction. To those for whom sex is a fun or fulfilling part of life, sex addiction may sound like a weak excuse for greedy and irresponsible sexual excess. If only it were that simple .

I would invite anyone who questions the notion of sex addiction being a real problem to reflect on why anyone would seek help if it was so much fun. Why would they put themselves through the daily cycle of secrecy and shame, lust and frustration, if it was all about having a good time? And why on earth would they ask anyone for help, if they were enjoying it so much?

What sex addicts need more than anything is compassion and understanding from other human beings. Maybe if they had had enough of that in the first place, they wouldn't have this problem. So please, don't judge what you don't understand.

And if you are overcoming a sexual addiction, and are struggling with how to start a new relationship, rest assured that there is hope for finding ways of enjoying intimacy.

Comments
January 19, 2009 at 7:29 am
(1) Bob Doba says:

If you are interested in learning more about the inner workings of an addict, I am doing my very best to take an accurate and raw candid inventory of myself, my thoughts, and my actions.

http://www.theconfessionsofasexaddict.com

January 19, 2009 at 7:30 am
(2) Bob Doba says:

Sex addiction is not a joke. It is the most painful and heavy cross to bear for people who feel shackled by compulsive sexual behavior.

However, there is hope.

January 19, 2009 at 11:43 pm
(3) addictions says:

Thanks for your comments, Bob. I hope they give some encouragement to other readers.

September 23, 2009 at 12:17 am
(4) mike says:

I have to say that I know a handful of people who have been diagnosed in this way. Getting treatment was never an issue of their satisfaction or anything of the sort. Their seeking help was for time and for strange desires. These are very impulsive individuals to begin with and they are usually relatively smooth to add to it. With that combination, I am not so sure that anybody would not develop sex addiction. In short, there is a bit more to the sex addict but there is not so much that I have any more sympathy than somebody with a shopping addiction. It is based on self control and the need to fulfill selfish desires over other things. Priorities play a large part from my experience

October 2, 2009 at 10:39 am
(5) Dawn Brooks says:

I agree with Bob Doba, it stinks to high heaven

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